I agree with your friend’s opinion but disagree with the way they handled things. I understand that they are just looking out for you but they could have made an effort to talk to you about it first. Being that those are semantics, tell your friends that you appreciate what they did but would rather handle your guy issues on your own. And about the guy, listen, I have been there. It sucks. Honestly, it’s gonna be hard, but drop him. Now. If he is unsure about his feelings or if he hasn’t asked you out by now, then it doesn’t look like the beginning of  healthy relationship. Find a guy who loves you for you and who will fight to be yours. This isn’t him. I hope everything works out!